What is Love........

Love happens only once... well I’m not the one who says so. It’s what we have seen and heard in all the legendary stories of the past. Sacrifice, commitment, trust have been some of the qualities of that love.

Coming to today’s world... I have really struggled to understand what love actually is... the definition which had firmly made a place in my mind and heart is suddenly getting weaker. The problem is, everything is getting fast tracked... even love. We need love, everyone needs it but nowadays every other youngster says I am in love only to change his opinion a day or two later. People have started misunderstanding between crush, infatuation and love. Only thing is we can have countless crushes and infatuations. The word so sacred and pure has become much maligned ... everywhere you see people saying it when they don’t mean it. Some people do it purposely but there are people who really mean it when they say it only to forget that they have already said it before to 5-6 people. In this case just the feeling that everyone around you is in love, you feel it’s high time to get someone for yourself... I call it desperation.

I really admire those people who say I’m doing time pass... at least they don’t lie to others that they are in love. If u have the guts you should go on and say this to the person that”I like you but I’m not sure whether I love u or not”. Saying I like you won’t cause much harm I guess if only objective is to do time pass. Now coming to the confused types... I have a friend who thinks god doesn’t really like him. He says he loved a girl in his college days but she loved someone else. He moved into post graduate college and you won’t believe he fell in love with 3 girls in a year!!!(at least he thought so) every time he drank alcohol I really struggled to find out for whom he was crying. One day he used to talk of girl in black and the other day about the girl in red.... lol. Those were just crushes.... part of every college going student’s life. Even I had my share of crushes.... right from standard 4th to college. But I always knew when I see other beautiful girl I would go after her so I never took them seriously.

Love at first sight!!! Another controversial topic... what are the qualities everyone searches in his partner... beauty, good nature, trustworthiness, supportive, caring nature and which of these qualities do we see first when we come across that person for the first time.... of course that person’s beauty. Yes there are some invisible forces that guide us towards one another but it can be just an axe effect... lol funs apart I don’t know whether it’s possible to back your instincts in such a case but I feel it’s just too risky.... again no risk no gain. So it remains a controversy.

Another friend of mine... met his old friend from college near a bus stop and they exchanged numbers. They started messaging each other... they met up again... sparks flew ... and they started dating each other. One month into their relationship and he was saying he wants to marry her!!! I started laughing at him when he told me this.... and he was like what’s the problem? Well at 21 it’s easy to get carried away with this love thing ... but thinking about marriage is too much. He even said this to his mother. Well frankly speaking if you are so serious about a person you won’t say all the XXX things about him/her in front of your friends...at least I won’t.

Now coming to me... I had a childhood crush... we say it ‘pehla pyar’ in our friend circle. Every time we see her my friends start singing.... ‘pehla pyar laaye jeevan main bahar pehla pyar’... hehee. I first saw her when I was in 3rd grade. We had our school function and our teacher had selected few students for a dance performance and she was one of them. When I use to see my partner and her I wondered why she wasn’t my partner?? I don’t know how I managed to think all this when I was in 3rd grade ... :P . After her there were so many crushes but she still has that special place. I even fought with my friends for her... even warned some of them that they shouldn’t add her in facebook or orkut. Now I laugh when I think about that. I never said I loved her.... cause I liked her and I always thought love will happen later. But things didn’t worked out or I can say bad timing of some incidents and she remained the 1st Crush.

Nowadays people have become of an opinion that if you don’t have a gf or a bf you are a gay!!! I say instead of showing false emotions about each other I would rather stay single. I’m in no hurry, I believe there is someone made for everyone just that some of them are lucky enough to meet them early and some are not. I am waiting for that special one and not just anyone and love will eventually happen.