What is Love........
Love happens only once... well I’m not the one who says so. It’s what we have seen and heard in all the legendary stories of the past. Sacrifice, commitment, trust have been some of the qualities of that love.
Coming to today’s world... I have really struggled to understand what love actually is... the definition which had firmly made a place in my mind and heart is suddenly getting weaker. The problem is, everything is getting fast tracked... even love. We need love, everyone needs it but nowadays every other youngster says I am in love only to change his opinion a day or two later. People have started misunderstanding between crush, infatuation and love. Only thing is we can have countless crushes and infatuations. The word so sacred and pure has become much maligned ... everywhere you see people saying it when they don’t mean it. Some people do it purposely but there are people who really mean it when they say it only to forget that they have already said it before to 5-6 people. In this case just the feeling that everyone around you is in love, you feel it’s high time to get someone for yourself... I call it desperation.
I really admire those people who say I’m doing time pass... at least they don’t lie to others that they are in love. If u have the guts you should go on and say this to the person that”I like you but I’m not sure whether I love u or not”. Saying I like you won’t cause much harm I guess if only objective is to do time pass. Now coming to the confused types... I have a friend who thinks god doesn’t really like him. He says he loved a girl in his college days but she loved someone else. He moved into post graduate college and you won’t believe he fell in love with 3 girls in a year!!!(at least he thought so) every time he drank alcohol I really struggled to find out for whom he was crying. One day he used to talk of girl in black and the other day about the girl in red.... lol. Those were just crushes.... part of every college going student’s life. Even I had my share of crushes.... right from standard 4th to college. But I always knew when I see other beautiful girl I would go after her so I never took them seriously.
Love at first sight!!! Another controversial topic... what are the qualities everyone searches in his partner... beauty, good nature, trustworthiness, supportive, caring nature and which of these qualities do we see first when we come across that person for the first time.... of course that person’s beauty. Yes there are some invisible forces that guide us towards one another but it can be just an axe effect... lol funs apart I don’t know whether it’s possible to back your instincts in such a case but I feel it’s just too risky.... again no risk no gain. So it remains a controversy.
Another friend of mine... met his old friend from college near a bus stop and they exchanged numbers. They started messaging each other... they met up again... sparks flew ... and they started dating each other. One month into their relationship and he was saying he wants to marry her!!! I started laughing at him when he told me this.... and he was like what’s the problem? Well at 21 it’s easy to get carried away with this love thing ... but thinking about marriage is too much. He even said this to his mother. Well frankly speaking if you are so serious about a person you won’t say all the XXX things about him/her in front of your friends...at least I won’t.
Now coming to me... I had a childhood crush... we say it ‘pehla pyar’ in our friend circle. Every time we see her my friends start singing.... ‘pehla pyar laaye jeevan main bahar pehla pyar’... hehee. I first saw her when I was in 3rd grade. We had our school function and our teacher had selected few students for a dance performance and she was one of them. When I use to see my partner and her I wondered why she wasn’t my partner?? I don’t know how I managed to think all this when I was in 3rd grade ... :P . After her there were so many crushes but she still has that special place. I even fought with my friends for her... even warned some of them that they shouldn’t add her in facebook or orkut. Now I laugh when I think about that. I never said I loved her.... cause I liked her and I always thought love will happen later. But things didn’t worked out or I can say bad timing of some incidents and she remained the 1st Crush.
Nowadays people have become of an opinion that if you don’t have a gf or a bf you are a gay!!! I say instead of showing false emotions about each other I would rather stay single. I’m in no hurry, I believe there is someone made for everyone just that some of them are lucky enough to meet them early and some are not. I am waiting for that special one and not just anyone and love will eventually happen.
The Bow
The film takes place on a boat floating on an unnamed ocean, on which lives an old man (Jeon Sung-hwan) and a young girl (Han Yeo-reum, also in the director’s excellent “Samaria”). The old man plans to marry the girl, who he supposedly found some ten years earlier, and who has never left the boat, as soon as she turns seventeen. It is a date the old man eagerly awaits, even counting down the days on a calendar. The old man’s other prize possession is a bow, with which he protects the girl, as well as using it as a musical instrument.
The two make money by hosting
fishermen, and by telling their fortunes using the strange method of the old man shooting arrows at the girl as she swings in front of what appears to be a Buddhist painting on the side of the boat. Their idyllic existence is troubled by the appearance of a young man, who falls in love with the girl and accuses the old man of keeping her prisoner. Slowly, the girl starts to assert herself, and as the wedding day draws near, tensions mount and confrontation appears inevitable.
The story itself deals with many of the themes which often run through Kim Ki-duk’s films, primarily in its examination of love through the concepts of ownership and trust. The relationship between the old man and the girl is complex, and even as the film progresses, and it appears that the girl is indeed kept against her will, Kim never offers any easy answers or condemnations. The old man and the girl’s affection for each other and co-dependence is made all the more powerful by the fact that neither speaks, and the way in which Kim allows subtle actions and glances to illustrate their emotions and motivations is extremely skilful, and never feels forced.
Since the fishermen who come to the boat are generally perverts who are constantly trying to grab the girl, her relationship with the old man has a strangely innocent aspect, and though uncomfortable, never feels overtly aggressive or exploitative. In fact, the old man’s role of protector, driving away the letches with his bow, and the tender love he clearly feels for the girl, generate considerable sympathy, and even when the young man appears to challenge him, it is far from clear who is truly acting in the girl’s best interests. This moral ambiguity is fascinating, and presents the viewer with a set of intriguing characters rather than a set of obvious heroes and villains.
Friends....my view
How many friends have you made by now and how many of them are you still in touch with?? Thought you were inseparable during the school days or your early college days but now you don’t even say a ‘hii’ to them when you see them online.... Or should I say they don’t bother to do the same. Any way round even though the internet has brought everything close I can still say that its due to this internet we have lost the respect to the same old friends.... When we were in the same college we chat all day long with our friends.... when we move out of the college slowly we lose touch... we know whenever we need them we will find them online... for some reason or other we don’t feel the need of taking their help.... or we find some new friends to discuss our issues with. Then we move into a new college and we find new friends there and think they are the coolest so we stop thinking of our old friends. Life goes on.... we completely forget our old friends only thing that remains is the online sign we were used to see on our messenger. Is this what it should be like?? Long have gone those days when old friends use to write letters to each other.....we don’t even buzz each other these days. Well instead of blaming it on anything else I can say it’s in human nature. When we think about our old friends sometimes we feel really bad.... How good those days were.... How much fun it was...Can I go back to those days again???...these are some of the questions which come to our mind... but can we really afford to do it?? Back in our mind we know it’s not possible and the best way is to carry on with our life the way it is. We should take it this way... those were ‘The days’ of our life ,no matter how much we feel like going back to them we should think that all the friends we had or we will have were part of our life and no matter good or bad they were they taught us something invaluable.You just take whatever you think is good and forget the bad things.Making friends is matter of learning. We meet different people we learn their perspective we broaden our level of thinking which ultimately teaches us a lot. Everything what we do can be related to a friend. For e.g. I have a friend who use to take me to temple on every Saturday... now even when he’s not with me I still see to it that I go to the temple every Saturday. One of my friends had a habit of saying ‘WTF’ and slowly everyone in our group was saying the same thing....lol.Friends give us the moments which we would cherish throughout our lives and those moments will give us the courage and experience to overcome the future. Now coming to me I made lots of friends .I use to speak with everyone in the college. But only 3-4 of them are still in touch with me. The rest have moved on. I enjoyed being with them, learned a lot from them...they might have learned few things from me...and after college everyone was gone. That’s it!!! The one who wanted to stay in touch still call me...even I call them. Guess God still wants us to learn more from each other. He he. Life goes on....you make friends you forget them, it’s a part of life...there’s nothing to feel bad about it. Everything what happened had a purpose and everything that has to happen will have a purpose.... and let’s hope the purpose is good. Just remember someone up there is watching us and never do such things which won’t allow you to look into your own eyes. Finally every battle in life has to be fought alone. ..Obviously it’s always nice to have someone by your side... friends can give courage, support, guidance.... but the result will always depend upon what you do all alone.... Remember it was all alone you came and all alone you would go!!!
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